By the time Jada Pinkett met Will Smith while auditioning for a part on The Fresh Prince of Bel Air in 1995 she had already long abandoned the notion that she’ll ever need a man for sex.

The 46-year-old actress could remember how she hadn’t even met her teenage years when her grandmother instilled in her the value of sexual pleasure being something that she herself commands.

“My grandmother taught me about self-pleasuring because she wanted me to know that that pleasure was from me. She didn’t want me to fall into the hands of a man — and if he gave me pleasure, to think that that was him. And she taught me at 9!” Pinkett-Smith shared while sitting in the company of her mother, Adrienne Banfield-Jones, and daughter, Willow Smith during the latest episode of Red Table Talk.

The role that the late Marion Martin Banfield played in the development of her granddaughter’s sexuality came up as one of the more revealing moments of the Sex Talk! Personal Stories From Three Generations episode. Pinkett-Smith celebrates the lesson as one that would help her prioritize other facets of a relationship by the time she came around to dating in her later years and then marrying in 1997. But along the way, ‘self-pleasuring’ would also prove to be a gift and a curse that she had to develop a sense of discipline over.

Let's Talk About SEX!

This week at The Table we're talking sex. Jada Pinkett Smith reveals everything from losing her virginity to embracing abstinence, and her addiction to sex toys. Willow Smith shares how she first learned about sex, and Adrienne Banfield Norris explains how her introduction to sex created shame in her life.

Posted by Red Table Talk on Monday, June 11, 2018